A Date?

some people have told me about such a thing, and i believe i may have been on one in the course of my life. but please correct me if i'm off here- a date is when a male asks out a girl he is interested in getting to know better. they usually participate in a mutual activity (such as dinner) in order to share in conversation and get to know one another. at this point the male tries to impress said girl in order to hopefully get a second date out of it. part of impressing her is paying for the activity, not only his share but hers as well. he may try to seem witty and funny to make her laugh. he may try to share his intellect (if he has any) in hopes of coming off smart. these dates usually last a couple hours, depending on what activity is involved. at the end, if the male is feeling particulary confident, he may try to "get some" (this includes a hug, a kiss, a makeout...... and thats about as far as he can hope to get, ever). if all of the previous activities failed in his attempts to impress her, he will get no such action. altho most girls will provide a pity hug if nothing else.

this activity sounds simply enough. in all reality it really is an easy concept to grasp.
1. ask a girl out
2. show her a good time
3. if it goes well and the feeling is mutual, keep going out on more dates

so why is it some guys go on these dates seemingly all the time, while others find other ways to spend their time on the weekends? well i have a theory............. no i dont. but i have a story. last week a friend from back home told me about this girl he wanted me to take out. so i call her and we chat for a bit. i ask her to dinner, but she had to work that weekend, so i said i'd call her the next week. i leave a message the other day like i said i would, and get this text back a little bit later:

"hey! so random... i'm actually dating someone now. it just happened last night, so kinda sudden. anyway, sorry... probably shouldnt go out with you tonight."

man, rejected even before i had a chance to meet her! you know you've stooped to new lows when you get shut down for a blind date. but i held my head high and told her no worries, i understood, but appreciated her being straight up about it and wished her well.... blah blah blah. then she says this back:

"thanks. sorry, i was looking forward to meeting you! thanks for not being mad... take care yourself!"

and thats the latest in my (non)dating life. i'll share more of these stories since they seem to happen quite frequently. but alas, this is not a pity post. just thought i'd share since everyone always asks how my dating is going anyways...